Sex in Overdrive - Week 1

Here are the notes for week one of the series...

Intro: The God’s Must Be Crazy
Why would God Give us a gift that causes hurt, that we
can’t understand, and causes problems?


Video: Miss California on The Today Show
She stood up for God's plan because she understood God's plan - she laid a foundation

3 lies the world has told us about sex…

1. SEX IS BAD

Genesis 1:31 – “God saw everything that he had made and it was very good.”
1 Timothy 4:4 “For everything God Created is good”

Adam & Eve
God was not shocked by Adam and Eve’s sex life
Sex was God’s idea
Genesis 1:28 “God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it”
God is pleased when his people engage in sex that Honors Him

2. SEX IS LIMITLESS
the limits are:
- Man & Woman
- In Marriage
Lie – more sex you have the better, anyhow, anywhere, anyone. No rules.
We take God’s Good gift & twist it into something He never intended
Genesis 2:24 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”
Sex OUTSIDE OF God’s plan has great consequences.

ILLUSTRATION: Duck tape & paper
Read letter from former students who was hurt deeply by pre-marital sex

Physical Consequences
Did you know…
· 1 in 4 teenagers will be infected with a STD before graduating from HS
· Each day 33,000 Americans become infected with an STD, and 22, 00 of those are 15-25 yrs old
· 2 STD’s human papillovirus (causes cervical cancer) and Chlamydia (causes infertility) are carried by at least 1 of 3 teenage girls who have had sex
· There are not 50 known STD’s. Some are itchy, burning, painful and even deadly. Some can make you sterile, Some are incurable.
Every day 2,700 teens get pregnant (1 million a year)
3/10 choose to abort
Yet most think , “That could never happen to me! That happens to other people.”

Emotional Consequences
Past Regrets – most don’t end up marrying
Guilt – damage self image / influence
No sexual sin God cannot forgive
Fear of Commitment – when you break up
Low self-esteem
Despair – STD, baby outside marriage, abortion, or reputation can lead to hopelessness

Spiritual Consequences
Withdraw from God
Impacts your witness
Lowers your standards
Affect your marriage
Cause you pain

3. SEX HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR
RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD

God does have something to say about sex…
1 Thess 4:3-8
It is God's will that you should be sanctified
(set apart for God and HIS purposes, HIS plan for your life)

that you should avoid sexual immorality
- not just avoioding sex
- fleeing from all sexual things outside of marriage!

4that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, 5not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God;
- stats are same inside church as outside church
- time to stand up – make a change
- how can a world know that Christ is real in your life IF YOUR SEX LIFE DISHONORS HIM
- stand up honor God with your sex life...a pure sex life
- but Brian “I’ve gone too far”…God is a God who can work a miracle in your life…allow HIM to do that

6and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him.
- Abusing sex in relationships is SELFISH at it's core
- Pornography= selfish to woman forced into that lifestyle, to your future spouse

7For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.
- God calls you to live above
- Are you called by God? If you have a relationship with Christ you are called by God to live pure and holy.
- Does He Reign supreme in your life? In the area of sex?
-Let God change you in this are of sex?

8Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.
- This isn’t Brian’s sexology
Saying no to purity is saying no to God's plan
- God’s way, God’s will, God’s power!


God’s gift of sex comes with an incredible instruction book!
– only thing more sad then the hurt of misusing the gift is throwing out the instruction book

We think “I’m fourteen, I know more than God.”
Worry about it later
I can handle it
Leads – out of control causes hurt
Not the way God intended

Conclusion: God’s plan is perfect
- Not always popular
- Not always easy

Matthew 7:13-14
13"Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. 14But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.

God’s way is narrow and very few people willing to follow it
World’s path is wide and many people follow it

I hope you guys will consider over the next few week s putting God’s plan into action in your life

Next week - "How to live Pure in a Porn World: God's plan for staying pure"

"Sex in Overdrive" kicked off tonight

Tonight we began our 3 week series on sexual purity here in the SHIFT Student Ministry concluding with the Night of Promise on May 15. Everyone was encouraged to bring their notes sheet home and discuss it with Mom & Dad. (we will have one each week) I hope our parents have an opportunity to spend some time discussing what we laid out tonight in the next few days with their son(s) and/or daughter(s). I will send along tonight's outline/notes tomorrow when I get in the office.

We also made take home sheets available for students who want to read/learn more about pursuing purity in their own lives. Because I'm always looking for good books to recommend I thought I would pass these along:

For young ladies:
"Wait for Me" by Rebecca St. James
"Technical Virgin" by Hayley DiMarco

For the guys:
"Tactics" by Fred Stoker
"Every Young Man's Battle" by Fred Stoker

On Pursuing Purity:
"Eyes Wide Open: Avoiding the Heartbreak of Emotional Promiscuity" by Brienne Murk
"Complete: a Life of Purity" by Pam Gibbs &Mike Wakefield
"Living Pure: Inside Out" by Lifeway
"Pure Joy: God's Formula for Passionate Living" by Lifeway
"Introduction to True Love Waits" a booklet by Lifeway
"When True Love Doesn't Wait" a booklet by Lifeway

On dating relationships:
"The 10 Commandments of Dating" by Ben Young & Sam Adams

any others you would recommend?

Investing in tomorrow today,
Brian H

Team Players

I love teams. Whether it's the 1939 A&M National Champions, my family team, or the team I serve on here at Second. I love teamwork, coming together to accomplish much more than I could on my own, doing my part to add to the whole. I love the bonds teams develop with each other when they play in the trenches together, and the challenge of calling individuals to be a team.

Every time our Global Student Ministry Team here at Second gathers some great wisdom is passed on & today Eric passed on some insight on 7 fatal flaws of teammates. 7 Great potholes to avoid!

1. The Comparison Game: Teammates don't compare - we encourage!

2. High Maintenance Mavericks: Someone who says, "I will get things done, but it will cost everyone more than it's worth along the way" may contribute to the cause, but isn't contributing to the team.

3. Loose Lips sink ships: Live by the principle of the good report. Be positive; watch your words.

4. Don't count on me ... all the time. Unpredictable players make everybody unhappy. Includes disloyalty to leadership. Teammates need to know they can count on you consistently.

5. Smokers not welcome! Some people cultivate controversy and have the unique ability to make small fires big fires. They are all SMOKERS!

6. Power plays and "positioning": Just because you are setting yourself for success doesn't make you a team player! Doesn't make friends either.

7. Work done in the "flesh": in any other line of work this would not need to be in this list, but as we do God's work there is no room for doing anything that starts with us. We need to be prayed up when we show up.

Are you a team player?

Miss California Stands up for God's Plan...will you? Sex Series Begins next week

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Catch this ... The often bland goings-on at the annual Miss USA pageant took on a decidedly heated political tone when openly gay celebrity blogger Perez Hilton, a pageant judge, asked Prejean: “Vermont recently became the fourth state to legalize same-sex marriage. Do you think every state should follow suit? Why or why not?”

It was encouraging to hear Miss California speak her mind and give her answer, God's answer...later she said,“It’s not about being politically correct; for me, it was being biblically correct,” Prejean explained. “When I’m asked a specific question, I’m going to give a specific answer. I’m not going to stand in the middle. I’m going to take one side or another.”

Are you taking a stand for God's truth's in your world?
Are you willing to take a stand for God's view of sex?
Do you know God's view of sex?
Want to hear more about what God has to say about these things???

Check out a new series all about SEX at Motion and Overdrive starting Next Wednesday night!
"Sex in Overdrive" & "Check Y or N" April29, May 6, and May 13

hope to see you there!
Brian

SHIFT Student Ministry Vision

It's the heartbeat of our Student Ministry to focus on 3 key words:
LIVE
GIVE
GROW

Vision:
Shift Student Ministry is building a generation of students who passionately LIVE for Jesus in a way that influences others, who GIVE of themselves and GROW in Christ’s love.

LIVE - shifting our focus to a lifestyle of authenticity where we influence others for Christ
GIVE - shifting our passion to giving of ourselves in christian community
GROW - shifting our pursuit to grow in God's Word.

It's our dream and passion that everything we do points students toward taking the next step "shift" in their faith so that they are living out these 3 concepts in a way that honors God and builds up others. As a team we are still taking the vision and making it into reality as we intentionally build a ministry that focuses its energy and attention on taking students to the next level in these areas of their lives. We're constantly looking for others to join us we pursue students for Christ here in NE Houston!

The classic is back & WE COULD USE YOUR HELP!

On April 17th, 2009 we are hosting a event that has become a classic around here on the North Campus of SBC - DART WARS! It's a great outreach event with a capture-the-flag esc game including over 700 foam darts and many many 7-8 graders.

We need adults to serve in various ways:

-Referee

- Registration

- Security

- Decision Counselors

if you can serve contact chenderson@second.org

Parenting Technology

Recently I have been talking with many parents who are increasingly shocked by the things their teens are involved in either online or on their cell phones. Technology is moving faster than many parents can keep up. If you are the parent of a teenager I strongly recommend this issue of "parenting their technology" becomes a focus for you - your teen deserves your parenting in this area.

What should we do? (3 quick thoughts)

1. Same old song—Stay vigilant. I am still amazed that parents allow their teenagers to have a computer in their room. Parents, you have to encourage your teenager to practice safe Internet usage and hold them accountable to the standards you set. Chief among all Internet safety practices is to never provide identifying information. Remember, even innocent exchanges of information with a trusted friend on Facebook can be traced, leading to unwanted attention from predators.

2. Acknowledge the importance of and strive to remain informed of the important role social networking and video entertainment plays in the life of teenagers. A lot of fear is generated from a lack of education concerning the Internet and its use. Related to this is the tension caused when adults attempt to downplay the significance of the Internet with teens. Parents, even though it may not make sense to you, acknowledge that social networking occurs for teenagers in cyberspace and attempt to remain educated on the sites your teenager is visiting. Education takes the fear away and gives you more control over usage.

3. Encourage your teen to take a technology fast. Okay, this has to be done by the entire family to work, but it really can be a blessing. Develop a plan and find a day or series of days in which all technology is declared off limits. It will be awkward at first, but imagine the peace and refreshment that will come from placing all phones, computers, TVs, radios, iPods, etc. in the off position.

read more in an article on CPYU HERE
Go get 'em!

JHigh and High School Beach Retreat 2009 Parent Meetings

JHigh and High School Beach Retreat 2009 Parent Meetings

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Did you know that...

63% of teenagers in America, ages 14-19 are sexually active right now?

Do you know where teenagers are learning about sex?
32%friends, 19% movies, 17% parents, 14% school, 11% television, 7% church

Did you know?...Sex and sexual purity are referenced over 400 times in the Bible.

As the church we should be standing up and taking groud for the purity of our students and that why we're praying Friday May 15th will be an amazing night where parents can publicly encourage and support their son or daughter to pursue purity and students can stand up for living a life of promised purity as the Student Ministry hosts the Night of Promise. The night will include a dinner, a message, and a commitment time.

When: Friday May 15, 2009 6:00PM – 8:00pm

Where: Second Baptist Church North, FLC Gym

Who: Any 7th -12th Grade student and their parents

Cost: $10.00 per person

If you are a parent or student in our minsitry and would like to RSVP be sure to grab and RSVP form this weekend in the ALobby.